I picked lot of things from my grandfather, including a love for books. In death, he offered me some bits about the death rituals of Kashmiri Pandits. He also gave me a fear. Although he read a lot, he remembered little. And in the end he forgot everything. Because I too forget, I write...
|Daddy and Badi Mummy clearing snow. Winter 1988. Srinagar.|
|With his youngest daughter-in-law and youngest grandchild. |
21, July 2013. Jammu
Mourning: the house is essential divided into two parts. One section for women and one for men. Frequent wailing sounds can be heard for women's side. In the men side there is mostly talk of bitter sweet past, sorry present and doomed future.
|5th August. 2013. Shakti Nagar Cremation Ground, Jammu.|
We go to the cremation ground to collect his bones and ashes. Among the bones is a bone known among Pandits as Porush (Man). It is part of upper vertebral column. The bone holds a special meaning as in its shape it is said to resemble a sleeping man, a symbol of departed body. While placing the body on pyre special care is taken by putting in in right posture to ensure that the Porush remains intact after burning.
|Cleaning of the spot by sons|
|The spot as it is left by locals of Jammu - the Hindu Dogras|
|The spot as it is left by Pandits. Honey, sweets and candy is left |
(possibly so that ants can do rest of the cleaning)
|White radish or Mooli is an absolute essential part of the 5th day ceremony|
and is a must offering for the departed on this day.
|Mahakal Bhairava and his dog (s) at Cremation Ground|
|Still Day 5.|
Ghat on Chenab river. Akhnoor.
Site for immersing the ashes.
In older times, in Kashmir, ashes where sometimes kept buried in a wall of the house till they could be immensed at Gangbal Lake in September. Or, at Shadipur.
|Prasadh at the end of the ceremony. Walnut.|
The departed is a Preta till it becomes a Pitr on completion of all the rites and joins the realm of previous Pitrs. A process that takes a year. The main rituals last for 13 days. There are talks among Kashmiri Pandits that 13 is becoming too difficult to manage. Working people can't be home for 13 days, that it should be reduced to 4. But the old guards and priests don't agree.
Garuda Purana is remembered and recited.
|Hindu afterlife Punishments given in Garuda Purana. |
A poster found at a little shop in Jammu. Febuary 2012.
Mother tells me punishment for those who waste salt is that they pick you up by your eyelashes.
|Evening feast. The Pandit ji also eats meat.|
|Day 11. Army is out on the streets. The cook doesn't come. Aunts take charge of cooking.|
When the last ceremony is over and the Pandit ji leaves, a token pebble is thrown at him as he crossed the main gate...probably so that he does not return soon.